Fear. The most self-crippling mind game we play. It is something that is always there, in some form or another. Fear of Rejection, Fear of Failure, Fear of Judgement, Fear of What If, I could probably come up with 101 different types and kinds of fears that we, as human beings have. But this post isn’t to name fear or even to tell you how to fight fear, because you can’t fight it. That is one thing I’ve learned, although slowly; fighting the fear just strengthens it because your last strategy and the one before that and the one before that didn’t win at least not for long. It only added to the fear by causing doubt.
So now you’re probably wondering “what the heck?!” I promise this is going somewhere, just keep reading. Fear is only as strong as you make it. Fear is only as scary as you let it be. You can’t fight it but you can overcome it. I won’t say it is easy, but it will definitely be worth it.
Facing your fears can be the scariest thing in the world! Yet that’s the key to overcoming them. It is the only way to move forward and allow yourself to grow. This is something I even struggle with, for example I stay with a job I’ve found I no longer enjoy because it has a decent paycheck and good insurance benefits. I let the fear of losing that keep me from looking for something new, and from gaining the tools to start my own business and leave that job. But here is where you and I might be different; I know that fear is keeping me here, I know that I am letting fear convince me that I am stuck, and I know that this crippling fear is holding me back from my full potential. You may be wondering how is that different? Knowledge. And with this knowledge of what this fear is doing I am letting it fuel me to take that step forward- I am facing my fear little by little. I may not be applying for other jobs yet, or paying for a coaching class yet, but I am letting it help me decide what I do and don’t want, I am letting it push me to look into more schooling. I also know that I have people to help get me through the bad days and to celebrate the little accomplishments with me.
Have you figured out the post yet? I’ll give you a hint: Face your fears. Push through them, don’t let them stop you from having the best, because guess what? You absolutely deserve the best. You and I deserve real love, and our dream job, and that we each deserve the confidence to be our true selves. The fear will always be there, but instead of letting it terrify you and put you into a quicksand trap, face it, embrace it, acknowledge it, work through it, learn from it, grow from it, show fear who is in control. You don’t need to dive into the deep end, you can take baby steps, but move forward through it. Nor do you have to do it alone, ask for help, there is plenty out there.