Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness are three unalienable rights listed in the Declaration of Independence. It isn’t Life, Liberty, and discovering happiness, or stumbling upon happiness or uncovering or finding or….. the list could go on. It is the PURSUIT of happiness. I take this to mean pursue what makes you happy, always. Stay with me here, I am getting to the point, or I will eventually.
It took me watching a Will Smith video- the one where he talks about love and happiness- if you have not watched this 2 and a half minute video then you should!! Anyway back to the topic, it took me watching this video to realize nobody can make me happy- they can add to it, but not make me happy. I probably would have come to this conclusion eventually but it would have taken a bit more waiting, a bit more heartache, and a bit more headache.
So let me tell you about this light bulb that went off in my head. YOU ARE THE ONLY PERSON WHO CAN MAKE YOU HAPPY. PERIOD. Simple as that. I used to have this mindset of “I’ll continue to date this person because he made me happy once, so he can make me happy again”….”If I had this title at work I would be happy”…..”If I made more money… If I buy this…. If I accomplish this…. If I am acknowledged for this or that…..” I had this mindset, like so many do, that I could be happy if someone else made me happy by doing something. But I wish I would have learned sooner the it isn’t your circumstances, job, people, significant other, etc. that would make me happy. Those things can only add to your happiness. They are not the existence of your happy.
Being happy is completely 100% a CHOICE!! All you have to do is open your eyes in the morning and choose to be happy, choose to be grateful, choose to be upbeat, just choose. Not happy? You are choosing that, you are choosing not to change. Is it easy to change your mindset and take accountability for your reactions, maybe not but you can start by showing up!!
Start with the little things that feed your soul. What hobbies do you have? What passions do you want to pursue? What sets your soul on fire? What people ADD to your happiness? It does not have to be big things, do an inventory of your life, make a list, and start with one change. Are you waking up grateful? Are you socializing with good people? Are you improving and growing? Are you taking care of yourself? Are you involved as much as you would like in your church? Are you reading books? Are you creating? Are you spending enough time in the sun with your dog? Bring it back to the baby steps, its not an overnight change. Start small, pick a few and make those things a priority. No excuses, no “I don’t have enough time” or “It’s too uncomfortable” Just do it. Make that conscious choice to be happy, pursue what will make you smile and laugh out loud!
That is my lesson in this life journey- pursue happiness always, choose happy, decide what can add to your happy.